I than asked myself, where does one start. Focusing more on doing more of what works, or less of what doesn't? The more I thought about this, and seeing how stretched and stressed many of our lives are already, the more I came to see that if we simply stop doing what doesn't work, that alone will help us increase our effectiveness. Not only will this give us more space in our lives, which I believe is important to our well-being, it will also allow us to focus more of our time, energy and resources on what does work.
With this said, here are some suggestions:
- Look at your To Do List and your calendar. What do you have on there that no longer makes sense. Once you have identified these items, just stop 'em. In-terms of previous commitments, as far as possible, renegotiate them. You can do this. It's OK.
- Look at your various involvements. For example projects, committees, and other initiatives. For those that no longer make sense, find a way to let them go.
- Consider the people with whom you interact. Among them, do you have individuals with negative attitudes, who continue to suck up your time, energy and resources, leaving you drained and tired? These often are the people who also don't help you move forward in any significant way and they refuse to change. I say move 'em on. The more I see and experience as I go about my days the more wisdom I see in the statement "Sometimes its easier to change people than it is to change people".