Saturday, January 9, 2010
Why Can't People Get Along?
Has someone ever rubbed you the wrong way?
Have you ever said something where even though you had the best of intentions, you found yourself completely misunderstood?
Did you know that the number one reason most people can't stand their work is not because of the work itself but because they can't stand their boss, their colleagues? That's also the big reason people loose their jobs, simply because people can't get along with them.
This is no small matter. When we can't get along, it has numerous negative implications. Misunderstandings take place. Friction happens. Communication and ultimately trust breaks down. Personal and professional relationships suffer. People become disengaged. Performance and productivity declines. Moral suffers. Innovation nearly comes to a halt. Stress increases. Health suffers and health care costs rise. These are just a few of the many negative impacts.
In school, it seems we take all sorts of subjects. Yet when it comes to taking courses to understand each other and learn how to effectively communicate, the foundation for effective and lasting relationships, such courses are far and few.
The reality is that people can't get along in most cases simply because we do not understand each other, we see the world through our own lenses, and we think our view is the right way.
As I have gotten older, I have come to experience and believe that everyone adds value, everyone has something to offer that betters the world, enriches our lives. Key is to have the patience, to take the time to understand our own and as well as others personalities, temperaments, communication styles, views, and perspectives.
While it's not always easy, as the more I do that, the more I experience increased happiness, healthier relationships and more success in my work. The formula is simple.
Communication ------> Connection -----> Happiness & Success